Love is a fickle thing. One day we can’t imagine living without a person, and the next, we’re questioning if we ever loved him or her to begin with. Love is a beautiful thing, until it fades away. Falling in and out love is as cyclical as the tides of the ocean. Here are some main reasons why the ladies lose that lovin’ feeling:
1. CONSTANT CRITICISM: Constant criticism creeps into a relationship, eventually killing any warm and loving feelings a woman might have for her guy. The constant need to criticize every little thing she is doing “wrong” will usually knock the wind out of her sails until she feels depleted and then she is going to start caring less about putting any effort into the relationship until she realizes she must protect herself and self esteem, and heads for the door. There really is something to be said for, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything.”
2. THEY STOP FEELING ADORED: Feeling appreciated, acknowledged and special is super important for women, who often balance and juggle so many things in life. Women are moms, housekeepers, cooks, businesswomen, caretakers, etc. While many women say they love doing it all and wouldn’t have it any other way – feeling adored by their partner makes it all worth it. Often times men will express their feelings of gratitude in the beginning, but get complacent after the novelty of the new relationship wears off. Compliments and recognition are two things women love … forever, guys don’t forget that.
3. LOSS OF INDEPENDENCE: There is such a thing as “healthy separateness” in a relationship. It’s important that both women and men retain their own friends, own activities and personal interests after they get together. When your partner becomes the end-all-be-all, they also may make you incredible resentful at what you have given up to be with them. The best couples figure out how to maintain their own identities as individuals as well.
4. EMOTIONAL DISCONNECT: There is a common thread through many of these reasons, and it is poor communication – or none at all. It is crucial that partners remain connected and make each other a priority. Getting distracted by daily life does happen, but one should always seek to bring it back to what matters most – the love between the two people. We all need to feel loved and when we don’t, some of us will shut down and eventually the love fades away.
5. BOREDOM: We’ve gotten into the worst rut. Do the same things every weekend. He never has any ideas or takes any initiative to plan anything. To keep a relationship thriving, you’ve got to keep it interesting and put some thought and energy into it. What’s that they say about tending to the garden? Well, it’s true.
Remember, when you know the love laws and commit to putting the loving actions that open your heart into practice, you can sustain a lifetime of a loving, honest, satisfying relationship. It’s not always easy or fast work, but it’s work that is well-worth the effort. For, in the end, all we really want is to feel love and be loved. There is great power in realizing that we don’t have to wait for anyone else to change in order to feel love but that this longing can be met by own actions.