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The interaction between dads and daughters is very complex. It not only sets an example for the kind of partner a girl may choose as she gets older but also affects the way she sees herself. It can be daunting for a man to figure out how to bridge the gap between, for example, his love of soccer and his daughter's passion for lady Gaga. But, the main thing is to spend time together, to try to regard her interests with an open mind.
REASONS WHY LADIES ARE CLOSE TO THEIR DAD
1. A daughter naturally wants to view her dad as a leader. She looks to him as a protector, as a provider. She wants to look up to him. Fathers have a tremendous power over their daughters. That's not just the way it’s supposed to be; that’s the way it is. The dad is really the daughter’s first love. He is the most important man in her life. His interactions with her set her up for how she’s going to relate to all other men and to God. That's a heavy load, but a wonderful truth. If she learns to like her dad, and she can trust him, she’ll have a much easier time trusting her husband and trusting God.
2. Sad thing is that even fathers and daughters who are close during the early years tend to drift apart as girls hit their teens. When a dad pulls out of a girl’s life, she flounders. Her self-esteem collapses. Her ability to have healthy relationships with other men suffers. Her sense of what she’s able to accomplish gets weak. Most crucial, girls between the ages of 10 and 17 have a strong need for male attention, affirmation, affection and touch. If dad backs out, she’ll get what she needs from male friendships or from romantic sexual relationships.
3. Daughters watch their dads like hawks. They watch not only how he treats her, but also how he treats her mom. If she sees her father hug and kiss her mother, help with the household duties and is patient, she will take what she sees into her own marriage and, whether she likes it or not, consciously or unconsciously, reproduce that. Daughters learn how they should be treated by watching how their dad treats their mom.
HOW CAN A DAD GET HIS DAUGHTER TO OPEN UP ABOUT WHATS GOING ON IN HER LIFE?
It starts with letting your daughter know you really want to hear what she has to say. One of the best ways to do that is to listen to her answers without interrupting. Ask, then sit and listen to her response. Whether you agree or disagree, don't respond the first time around. Revisit the conversation later if you need to.
It’s also important to remember that every conversation should not be a teaching conversation. That’s a big mistake a lot of fathers make. Ultimately, you have to approach these conversations with the long term in mind. You can’t expect your daughter to open up right away, but if you can communicate to her that you value what she says and thinks, you’ll have her ear after a couple of months.
TIME TO GIVE YOUR DADDY, THAT DAUGHTER KISS , NO MATTER HOW OLD YOU ARE ..MWAAAAAAH.
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